The Romantic Deception

Romance is sweet, breath-taking and sometimes fun, but it can also be deceptive for both parties involved.  In a dating pool where there are people who correlate romantic endeavors with genuine interest, being too romantic can leave people with rose-colored glasses on.  Romantic gestures are predicated on intense interest and willingness to display that interest.  These gestures should be appreciated and noted, but it cannot be the foundation on which a relationship is built.

Subconsciously, romance can deceive both parties long term.  People are on their best behavior when first meeting someone because each person is trying to impress the other.  People can get so caught up in roses and stars that they do not pay attention to small signs of personality flaws that would cause someone to run for his/her life.

It is no secret that human beings can be purposely deceitful.  The person who is giving romance more than likely knows the emotional effect from maybe having roses delivered to someone’s job or a candlelit dinner on the beach.  The question is whether the intent behind these deeds are about being kind or being in control.  The person receiving romantic gestures could be using the giver because of the potential money spent and bragging rights to friends.

In relationships, things change, people change and therefore people change.   When couples go through problems, they can have a night of wine, chocolates and sex but they will wake up with the same issues.  Relationships need to be based on friendship, not scenes from a soap opera.

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